Connie is speaking at "What Women Want Expo" this Friday!
This Friday night, September 26th, at the South Towne Expo Center at 7 p.m., Connie Sokol will be speaking on "Lose Perfection, Get Direction, and Enjoy the Process!"
She'll share key principles and practices to get balanced and feel the joy while getting there. Free LIFEChange product drawing held at the conclusion of the presentation. Expo admission to $5.
http://www.whatawomanwantsshow.com
Tuesday, September 23, 2008
Weekly LIFETip: A Communication Situation
LIFECoach Tip: Have you got a communication situation?
Hi Ladies,
Recently I received an email from a mother who shared: "I just came in from picking up my son and having a huge shouting match about his misplaced homework being my fault, all this while driving. I flipped out and he flipped out, so now he's grounded for a week, and of course he doesn't care. I left him in the car for a few hours to write a paper on why he should respect his mom and how this whole thing could have been avoided. I came back to my desk at work crying thinking, 'This is just the beginning. What am I to do for the next six teenage years?'"
My response to her, and to you if you have a communication situation with a teenager, or husband, or co-worker, is to consider using validation and repair attempts. Validation is understanding his position, which position may be totally irrelevant, or really out there. But it's vital to validate that he FEELS that, "I can see how you feel that way, that I'm just spending most of my time picking on you." Then you can sweetly move into the "Can we look at it from another angle..." A repair attempt is when things escalate, you take a deep breath, and say something like, "You know, I love you son, and this conversation isn't going somewhere helpful. I really want to hear what you're saying, so I'll speak softer." It's also adding a little light-hearted humor, "So in a nutshell, you're saying I'm annoying???" As you validate or use a repair attempts, and KEEP YOUR COOL, you'll see big changes in your ability to communicate.
All my best,
Connie
ConnieSokol
President,LIFEChange
info@lifechangeprogram.com
www.lifechangeprogram.com
801.787.4910LIFEChange
Copyright (c) 2008All Rights Reserved
Hi Ladies,
Recently I received an email from a mother who shared: "I just came in from picking up my son and having a huge shouting match about his misplaced homework being my fault, all this while driving. I flipped out and he flipped out, so now he's grounded for a week, and of course he doesn't care. I left him in the car for a few hours to write a paper on why he should respect his mom and how this whole thing could have been avoided. I came back to my desk at work crying thinking, 'This is just the beginning. What am I to do for the next six teenage years?'"
My response to her, and to you if you have a communication situation with a teenager, or husband, or co-worker, is to consider using validation and repair attempts. Validation is understanding his position, which position may be totally irrelevant, or really out there. But it's vital to validate that he FEELS that, "I can see how you feel that way, that I'm just spending most of my time picking on you." Then you can sweetly move into the "Can we look at it from another angle..." A repair attempt is when things escalate, you take a deep breath, and say something like, "You know, I love you son, and this conversation isn't going somewhere helpful. I really want to hear what you're saying, so I'll speak softer." It's also adding a little light-hearted humor, "So in a nutshell, you're saying I'm annoying???" As you validate or use a repair attempts, and KEEP YOUR COOL, you'll see big changes in your ability to communicate.
All my best,
Connie
ConnieSokol
President,LIFEChange
info@lifechangeprogram.com
www.lifechangeprogram.com
801.787.4910LIFEChange
Copyright (c) 2008All Rights Reserved
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Meanwhile, check out this week's LIFETip, newspaper column, and other juicy bits of woman-in-the-trenches-and-lovin' it. I'm excited to share with you, in Clint Eastwood verbage, the Good, the Bad, and the Ugly of daily living using LIFEChange principles. Join me!
All my best,
Connie
Mother of six
President, LIFEChange
Executive LIFECoach
And what exactly is LIFEChange? LIFEChange is a personal LIFECoaching program helping you live your ideal life. Our Certified LIFECoaches in each 30-minute session will guide each woman successfully through transitions with real-time solutions tailored to personal needs.
You can see results in one week.
To find out how real women used and liked the program, visit http://www.lifechangeprogram.com/ and get the inside scoops. Browse around and see what we're all about!
Meanwhile, check out this week's LIFETip, newspaper column, and other juicy bits of woman-in-the-trenches-and-lovin' it. I'm excited to share with you, in Clint Eastwood verbage, the Good, the Bad, and the Ugly of daily living using LIFEChange principles. Join me!
All my best,
Connie
Mother of six
President, LIFEChange
Executive LIFECoach
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